This space — Thoughts of Mrs Wolfie — is where I think out loud, reflect, and occasionally ramble with a cup of tea in hand. But there’s another side to what I do, one that’s a little more structured, a little more intentional.

That would be Ten Shades & Me.

It officially began in 2014, at a time when a lot of people were starting to ask questions about the BDSM lifestyle. What started as a silly idea in a shopping queue would become my work and my life.

On Ten Shades & Me, you’ll find guides, reflections, and sex toy and sex position reviews, all written with the intention of making things feel like you’re talking to a good friend about kinks. I also talk about the parts that don’t often get discussed, like disability and accessibility, because those things matter just as much.

Ten Shades & Me isn’t about telling people who to be or how to live, it’s about offering perspective, sharing experiences, and helping people feel a little more confident in exploring themselves and their relationships.

Why not read my work today?